Book Review: MWF Seeking BFF – Rachel Bertsche [TSS]

Title: MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend
Author: Rachel Bertsche
ISBN: 9780345524942
Pages: 384
Release Date: December 20, 2011
Publisher: Ballantine Books
Genre: Memoir, Non-Fiction
Source: Publisher
Rating: 4.5 out of 5

Summary:

After moving to Chicago from New York, Rachel Bertsche has to face a difficult fact.  Though she’s thrilled to have “couple friends” with her husband, as well as work friends, she doesn’t have a best friend in the city.  Determined to put herself out there and make some new friends, Rachel plans a series of “friend dates” – one each week for a year – in order to expand her social circle and find a new BFF.

Review:

If you wanted to meet new people, how would you do it?  Would you ask friends to introduce you to their friends, or join a club or group?  Would you start going to church, or just strike up conversations with strangers at a coffee shop?  While some of these approaches may seem daunting, these types of endeavors are exactly what Rachel Bertsche pursues in her memoir MWF Seeking BFF.

What’s incredible about MWF Seeking BFF is that it’s a book almost every woman can relate to.  Even if you are surrounded by the best of friends now, there probably was a point in your life when you weren’t, when you felt alone and wanted new friends.  As a result, the subject matter is completely accessible and easy to sympathize with.  But even better, Bertsche’s writing style is very engaging.  Her prose is crisp and clear, and she writes with such a frank, self-deprecating sense of humor that readers will wish she was their BFF.

There are many different aspects to MWF Seeking BFF, and all of them are interesting.  Rachel’s approach to the whole project, friend-dating, is actually a great idea.  We go on dates to find spouses, why not for lifelong friends as well?  More than once, I marveled at how brave Bertsche was; from approaching complete strangers to following up on those “we should get together!” comments, she pursued every avenue open to her.  But what I loved was that she was honest about it all, admitting when she was embarrassed and making an effort not to appear to desperate.  The personal aspects of this story are incredibly appealing.

Bertsche also discusses the repercussions of her friend-dating, which were unexpected and intriguing.  The quest affects her life and marriage in ways she couldn’t have imagined prior to embarking on it.  Additionally, she tackles the stickier aspects of friendships – why, for example, so many women she met seemed to be looking for friends, yet they were afraid to admit it.  The memoir is full of interesting tidbits and information, and I appreciated that Bertsche tackled the subject from all angles, talking to professors, experts, and anyone else she could approach.

MWF Seeking BFF is a great memoir that most women will enjoy.  I especially recommend it to those in their late twenties and thirties who find themselves in the same situation that Rachel does.  I found Bertsche’s enthusiasm and willingness to put herself out there very inspiring, and as I definitely understand her situation (most of my best friends are a phone call, rather than a car ride, away), I will be thinking about her book for a long time to come.

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Comments

  1. This book sounds really interesting to me as I myself find in a similar situation right now… I will definitely put it on my reading list! Thank you for the review!
    Geri

  2. Anonymous says:

    This book sounds really interesting to me as I myself find in a similar situation right now… I will definitely put it on my reading list! Thank you for the review!
    Geri

  3. I really should read this one as I perfectly understand where she’s coming from. Great review!

  4. I really should read this one as I perfectly understand where she’s coming from. Great review!

  5. It can be really hard to make friends, especially is you are even in the least bit socially awkward or have moved to a new place. I have a few good friends, but my eyes are always open for new possibilities and I never close my eyes to the possibilities of meeting a new friend, though of course, when you are open like that, there are bound to be horror stories. This sounds like a really great read, and something that I think I could relate to, so onto the list it goes, right up at the top! Great review today, Swapna!

  6. It can be really hard to make friends, especially is you are even in the least bit socially awkward or have moved to a new place. I have a few good friends, but my eyes are always open for new possibilities and I never close my eyes to the possibilities of meeting a new friend, though of course, when you are open like that, there are bound to be horror stories. This sounds like a really great read, and something that I think I could relate to, so onto the list it goes, right up at the top! Great review today, Swapna!

  7. I think this is one of those books that everyone can relate to. So many of us have trouble making friends as we’re older. And I’ve been having a great discussion on my blog today about just how hard it is to make new friends in book blogosphere, even, when we all have such a strong thing in common connecting us.

  8. I think this is one of those books that everyone can relate to. So many of us have trouble making friends as we’re older. And I’ve been having a great discussion on my blog today about just how hard it is to make new friends in book blogosphere, even, when we all have such a strong thing in common connecting us.

  9. Glad you gave it high rates. I have it on my shelves and am looking forward to reading it.

  10. Glad you gave it high rates. I have it on my shelves and am looking forward to reading it.

  11. I read this book a few weeks ago and devoured it. I agree with you that it is so relatable. And Bertsche is a great writer-very engaging, very funny, and I loved how she admitted to feeling embarassed and not wanting to come off as desperate.

  12. I read this book a few weeks ago and devoured it. I agree with you that it is so relatable. And Bertsche is a great writer-very engaging, very funny, and I loved how she admitted to feeling embarassed and not wanting to come off as desperate.

  13. I’ve really been wanting to read this one! My husband and I are moving to a new state soon where I will know hardly anyone and I can see myself wanting friends like the author of this book. Can’t wait to get my hands on it :)

  14. I’ve really been wanting to read this one! My husband and I are moving to a new state soon where I will know hardly anyone and I can see myself wanting friends like the author of this book. Can’t wait to get my hands on it :)

  15. I just love the idea of this. I think it is a fantastic idea and one that I would love to incorporate into my own life.

  16. I just love the idea of this. I think it is a fantastic idea and one that I would love to incorporate into my own life.

  17. I just read this book myself and enjoyed it. I thought it was very well done and a book I easily could relate to. I am glad I gave it a read!

  18. I just read this book myself and enjoyed it. I thought it was very well done and a book I easily could relate to. I am glad I gave it a read!

  19. I just ordered this one, so forgive me for not reading your complete review. I really look forward to it.

  20. I just ordered this one, so forgive me for not reading your complete review. I really look forward to it.

  21. I’m really impressed with her bravery! Making new friends gets harder, I think, once you leave school. I’m definitely going to pick this one up. Sounds like something I (and many others!) can relate to.

  22. I’m really impressed with her bravery! Making new friends gets harder, I think, once you leave school. I’m definitely going to pick this one up. Sounds like something I (and many others!) can relate to.

  23. After reading your review, I am adding this to my TBR list because it is something I can definitely relate to.

  24. After reading your review, I am adding this to my TBR list because it is something I can definitely relate to.

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